Los Angeles - M

M has been the source of much agita, frustration and questioning for me over the last month.  A bit of backstory is in order, I suppose.  We met in late January, hung out basically every weekend in February, and I basically have not seen her in March.  We still talk on occasion, but in February we talked almost daily.  Basically whatever we had going on in February came to an abrupt halt for some reason.  I asked her if she wanted to "just be friends" or even have nothing more to do with me (either of which I'm cool with), and she said no, she just changed priorities a bit and was focusing on herself now.  Fine, no problem (though it sucks I had to ask what happened).

After having that conversation with her, I resolved that any contact in the immediate future would have to be initiated by her, and this resulted in her calling me four times last week with me not calling her once.  In her second of those calls she reiterated (unprompted by me) that it was OK for me to call her and that she still wants to hang out.  After that I figured for me to not call her anymore would just be assholish, but I still was going to wait till after the weekend to do so, at the earliest. 

Well, I didn't get a chance cause she beat me to it by calling me as she was driving home (at least a little drunk, I might add) at about 3 am on Friday night.  I helped steer her in the right direction as she'd gotten a bit lost, and we just chatted till she got home.  During this talk she was fairly flirty with me, talking sexually and whatnot.  She hung up once she was naked in bed and about to fall asleep.  She'd said that the next day (Saturday) she wasn't sure if she was going to hang out with her family or if she was gonna go out clubbing; so the next evening when I was at a party at F's house I texted her to ask what she ended up doing.  She eventually responded that she'd gone out to a club, and when I texted her back 45 minutes later I asked what she was doing afterward. 

She never responded to my text, though she did call me about two hours later at about 4 am as she was once again on her way home.  Since the club closed at 2, I asked if she went out to eat or something afterward, but instead she told me about how she hooked up with some guy in the parking lot.  This didn't bug me, but I was beginning to get tired of her seeming to only call me when she's apparently bored driving somewhere or when she can't really talk for very long.  Nonetheless I talked to her till she got home, but when she got home her phone dropped the call.  I waited a few minutes for her to call me back, and when she didn't I texted her to say if she wanted to talk more that I'd be up for a bit, but if not then I'd talk to her later, and she never responded. 

It's now two days later and I've still not heard anything from her, and IMO that's just a rude way to end a conversation.  For me that's the proverbial straw.  Unfortunately she and I made tentative plans to hang out on Friday night, and I don't know how to get out of them without either picking a fight or passive-aggressively picking a fight (with the ensuing awkwardness and drama that comes when you do that).  I'm left hoping she either doesn't call, or waits till the last minute to call so I can say I forgot and now have other plans.  In any event, the next time she calls me I'm not going to answer the phone, and will only call her back after at least two days pass.  I'm totally done at this point.  If she wants to make a really big effort to get together in the future (or this Friday even), then I'll indulge her (although the effort must truly be large), but I'm guessing she won't and I'm totally fine with that.